How changing your story can change your life | Lori Gottlieb

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Stories help you make sense of your life -- but when these narratives are incomplete or misleading, they can keep you stuck instead of providing clarity. In an actionable talk, psychotherapist and advice columnist Lori Gottlieb shows how to break free from the stories you've been telling yourself by becoming your own editor and rewriting your narrative from a different point of view.

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My parents got divorced when I was in my middle school. The letters in the talk sound so familiar that when I was little, my dad and mom would tell me totally different versions of the same story, and their words confused me for many years. When I grow up, I realized that it's not about right or wrong. It's just people can only understand the world from their own perspectives, which are usually narrow. And my solution is to honestly express yourself to others, exchange your feelings, your views, or your emotions with your partner, so you can understand each other better. It is so important and useful. Hope everyone can live a happy life instead of being trapped like my parents many years ago

Author — Danmeng ma


Damn. She’s just gave me a therapy session!

Author — Charles Alvin


Such a quotable talk!
- We are all unreliable narrators of our own lives.
- To tell a story is inescapably to take a moral stance.
- Stories are the way we make sense of our lives.
- The way we narrate our lives shapes what they become.
- Change, even really positive change, involves a surprising amount of loss.
- What would happen if you looked at your story and wrote it from another person’s point of view?
- Life is about choosing which stories to listen to, and which ones need an edit.
- There’s nothing more important to the quality of our lives than the stories we tell ourselves about them.

What do you want your story to be? Go write your masterpiece!

Author — Happy Naturalist


"if you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging."

Author — hcneydew


This is very powerful. Editing how you perceive the world and reshaping your responses can lead to deep and powerful changes. I’ve seen it. I’ve experienced it. An excellent TED talk!

Author — J H


My wife left me 3 months ago and I lost my job, home and my dog. I've never been happier finding myself. But I do miss my dog.
Good luck to everyone out there

Author — John Tomik


The biggest jail is one's mind. Being rigid and having wrong patterns is what prevents one to be free

Author — alEx S


This is a masterpiece of a Ted Talk. Easy to understand, short, concise and the prison bar analogy, perfect.

Author — John Smith


ok she's convinced me to see a therapist now

Author — esoreuqin


"The next time you're struggling with something. Remember that we're all going to die .And then pull out your editing tools and ask yourself : what do i want my story to be ? And then go write your masterpiece . " Lori Gottlieb

Author — Hanan Bahy


"Freedom comes with responsibility"

Author — Let's Learn for Million Dreams


I wish she would have given examples of what a changed story should sound like. Like in that woman’s case. She needs an edit I know but i wish she gave examples of exactly what good edits would sound like in her circumstance or in any other circumstance. I don’t have much of an imagination.

Author — Katie Kat


The key is being truthful and honest about oneself.

Author — SavedByGrace #


It takes some skills to make people laugh, think, and inspire them in a short 15-minute talk!
I'm a transformation coach, I know how powerful rewriting your life script can be. When you rewrite your story your life will change, and soon you'll see a shift in the dynamics of your friendships, too. I agree with Lori, it can be scary, even if the changes are positive.

Author — Grazina Ajana Szewczyk


This is a rare gem after a long series naff TED talks.

Author — Honest Person


I always get inspired by Ted talks for complete 1 day but on the next day I get distracted 😂😂

Author — Sanjay Gole


So true and what she said was in my heart

Author — Inert Soul


Lovely TED talk. One of the better ones in 2019!

Author — JRcat


*Ultracrepidarianism* -- the habit of giving opinions and advice on matters outside of one's knowledge.

Author — Elena Komleva


Change the story you tell yourself, you will change your life.

Author — Eashwar Murthy