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I have been following you Jerry for a year now and this video is the one that hit me the hardest. You explained something that I have been trying to understand all my life. It's unbelievable how you were able to capture what goes on for me inside when dealing with other people. pressurrd speech and thought which makes me reactive. I lose the ability to actually think and check in with my feelings. Even though I don't come from alcoholic, my family life was disfunctional and there was a lot of neglect, control and emeshment.
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Author — Deqa
Sir. Im my life ive 'd wonder why I can't stop and feel... although I'm very intune with my emotions.. son of a single alcoholic mother.. I've always been ahead of myself... ALWAYS EVERY SINGLE DAY ALWAYS AHEAD AHEAD AHEAD... it started to become very self destructive losing a good and 2 jobs...I CAN HONESTLY RELATE TO A YOUTUBE VIDEO FOR THE 1ST TIME IN MY LIFE. thank you sir
Author — Big Life
Jerry there was something you mentioned in one of your videos about emotional flooding and frozen feelings, it would be amazing if you did a video on this topic. as I am emotionally reactive but disconnected from my body and feelings. So when you mentioned emotional flooding and frozen feelings I was floored and it immediately made so much sense to me.
Author — Deqa
I want to open this with a plug for Jerry I've had a couple sessions with him and it's very much worth it. Very easy to work with, good sense of humor a lot of insight and transparency and just like he is on this channel.
"Yes" on all of the above when it comes to reactivity and feeling pressure to answer and anxiety or preparing answers in our heads while someone is still talking, oversharing/too wordy, which bleeds into confession because in my case, don't think I had a voice in my family other than angry and hyper and I think that's one of the reasons I talk fast like a race to get my words in, kind of like the way dogs in a multiple pet family scarf down their food so no one else will get at it. This can lead to snapping and all kinds of bad behaviors.
I was bullied both in and outside of the home i grew up in and sometimes I bully others. Matter of fact it happened yesterday in the pool.not only did I probably imagine a guy was hitting on me but I was also very impolite and wordy in allowing him to pass through my lane to the steps to get out of the pool when I could have just said in response to something he said"not a problem just go ahead " instead, in my defensive posturing which has allowed me to earn the title of being a b****, I said" Well, if you would just go ahead and get out then you wouldn't delay me and what I'm trying to do (which was really nothing I was just standing taking a break in the pool in my lane) and to prove that I was really about to start swimming again I took two laps until he disappeared and then I got out and left I mean what was the point of that except that I didn't prepare my mind I didn't listen to the guy I didn't see that he was being polite I was put out and put upon and that's how I was treated a lot by people and I've become a perpetrator really stinks
I like the idea of giving ourselves permission to slow it down to our own rate.as much as I want to apologize to that guy and I probably should have I know you can't redo a first impression. I have committed so many acts of social suicide because of my internal pressure that Jerry would probably say comes from the family or is family pressure.
Thank Jah and Jerry for this channel qnd his generous portrayals of broken family systems and truly simple(but not always easy) solutions.
Author — Michele Kurlan
This is literally communication 101 thank you 👍🏻
Author — Love ❤️✨
Thank you. I take very slowly and cant help it. All my life I've been rushed in my conversation speed by mother who told me to speak faster and she couldn't wait for me to finish sentences because she is a speedy person. I've recently been working g with a narcissistic speedy Gonzales Male who rushes communication and rushes my learning of new things leaving me in confusion and overwhelm!! So thank you for this helpful video which has given me some hope and validation that I can change this a bit.x
Author — Gabrielle Crawford
I know I’m late to this video but wow. This was incredible. This was definitely an “aha” moment. Thank you!
Author — EleanorAnnePaintings
This helps me and is going to help me, for me this is one of the best video's I have seen yet. I wanted to watch it sooner, but wasn't mentally ready for it. Thank you
Author — Pin
Very helpful. God bless you for helping everyone
Author — Penny Scott
What a great video ... WOW ... Thank you Jerry!!!
Author — ChasingClouds
Thank you so much for this very helpful information!
Author — Mary Vermeulen
Jerry I would really like to work with you. I have developmental Trauma, would really like to hear your thoughts on developmental trauma disorder.
Author — Deqa
Wow my mother would rush my speaking, mock my voice and tell me to make my “monotone” voice more interesting! It was awful, ,
