They Saw Dad, She Was Mom | NYT - Conception

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They Saw Dad, She Was Mom | NYT - Conception 4.5
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“I got the marriage. I got the kids. But I was missing something.” Her kids saw her as Dad, but she was Mom.


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“What defines a parent is not the ability to make a child but the ability to raise one” - Barack Obama

Author — Susie ?

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No, that does not make you less of a mother just because you didn't biologically carry your children. I am adopted and my Mum is very much my mother ♡

Author — Kelly Plunkett

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This is beautiful, my “dad” is a transgender woman and I’ve always accepted that, but I never thought that this could be going through her head.

Author — Daisy Thralow

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Wow that was not an aspect of being trans that I ever thought about. To identify as a woman and not be able to carry your own children. Like, being able to bear children doesn't make you a woman but it is a big part of being one.

Author — MW S

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Always amazed how vulnerable these women are in this series. No exception here. Thank you for your story❤️

Author — Pear Gordon

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This just felt right. People have complex emotions and they need to be understood and not alienated. Empathize and be there to listen.

Author — Vidushi Rastogi

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As a trans male, I felt this. I’ll never be a biological male. But that doesn’t mean I’m less of a man. I’m pretty confident with my identity considering I’m so young but I’m glad I figured myself out now rather than later. I’m proud to be a man! :)

Author — milo g

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*twitches*
As an adopted human I'm a little upset that it's assumed that one has to push a child out of their body to be a "mother".

Author — Rosalie Stevenson

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I relate to this a lot. I’m a trans male, and it’s hard to live with the fact that I can never have my own biological children. It’s a hard fact that we trans people have to live with. I feel this woman’s pain so much and I wish I could hug her and tell her I understand so much.

Author — iamsueshii

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There are many women who can't have children. Regardless of your personal history, if you desire to have a child and give e birth to them and can't, it's going to be painful and sad.

Author — Marshmllo Dragon

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I kind of see gender dysphoria as a by-product of the roles society makes you play, according to your gender. If we didn't have the image of women being different from men or vice-versa, there would be less people identifying as "man" or "woman" and more people identifying as a "human being". It's really sad to see people go through confusion and being rejected by society when society is the actual culprit of all mishaps in life.

Author — Hye-Jin Kweon

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Wasn't expecting to relate to this on such a personal level. When I was 18 I found out that I probably won't be able to have children, but it hasn't been until the last few years that I really started to develop feelings about it. I'm 29 now and am being told it's too late to try, that my ovaries are a "hostile" place, and it hurts. I feel all these things that my head knows are ridiculous but I can't help it: I'm so old, my body has betrayed me, this is my sole biological purpose, I've already missed out on my entire life.

Author — CassiTheNerd

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I hate the fact that whenever I watch these videos about LGBTQ people being portrayed in a sympathetic and positive light, I dread what other people have written in the comment section...

Author — Brianna MacArthur

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She seems like such a wonderful mother and she's doing great 💜

Author — Kayden Stuff

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I love this. And I’d much rather have a happy trans mom than a cis dad who isn’t comfortable with himself. You have to try and be the best version of yourself so you can be the best parent to your children.

Author — Mags Honey

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I think her story has a lot of parallels with mothers who adopt or foster because their body is unable to have biological children

Author — H. Ellie Lee-Morrow

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Very good video. Loved it. ... Just be who you really are. So ... You did not bear a child. Many women don't or can't have kids. At least they are part of you.

Author — Michelle B

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Loved watching, thanks for the share!

Author — Harriet Shearsmith

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This is so beutiful, I cried for so long.

Author — Yuli Ruppin

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I could keep listening to this story for longer. Will you do a longer version please?

Author — nóra juhász